Accepting What Is…

We are yet again at the beginning of a new year! 2018, I have high hopes for you!? Whilst 2017 was not as black and heavy as the previous years, it was nevertheless intense. Hence, I am ready for a change of pace and the buzz that I feel 2018 has the potential to deliver. WOOHOO – Bring it on!??????

Having said that, 2018 has not started how I imagined it to at all. A couple of days before new year’s eve I began to feel rather unwell and before I knew it I had full blown flu. I spent the first days of the year horizontal, feeling like last year’s garbage and emotionally disappointed that this was how this year actually began.? Being a freelancer who had just returned from a holiday, I returned to work after 1 day of cancelling class and made it through the rest of the week relatively well. Yet the thoughts lingered as to why this year would begin this way, with all of the energies seemingly pointing in the direction of pure vibrancy for 2018?! I was perplexed…??

Deep down, my beliefs of the promise that this year holds have not dampened but my exhilaration was temporarily suppressed. I was slightly overwhelmed by things not going the way I had expected them to and I felt like poo ??? (yes 3 haha?). This is not the first time that this has happened (probably the millionth??) but I gather that I was ready to look at this from a different perspective, so that it could be experienced from a transformed viewpoint.

It spurred me on to reflect on the fact that, as humans, we often resist most of what occurs in our lives on a daily basis. The main reason that we are thrown off and get upset by such situations is mainly linked to our lack of trust (in ourselves and all that is) and our need to control situations based on how we see that things should pan out and develop for our greater good. But what if we are wrong? Ultimately we can only see things from our perspective and don’t exactly have a bird’s eye view of all that happens, as the power of the Universe does…?

“Detach from needing to have things work out in a certain way. The universe is perfect and there are no failures. Give yourself the gift of detaching from your worries and trust that everything is happening perfectly.” ~ Osho

What if the fact that I started off 2018 feeling weak and incapacitated was actually to my greater advantage? Perhaps I was being forced to rest so as my body could cleanse out all that no longer served me at the start of the year, so as I could bring my A game into the new year once I recover completely? Or maybe I was so gung-ho at forging ahead that I actually needed to come to a complete halt to re-evaluate my strategy in order to align it with a better course of action? Or both… And quite possibly many other things I cannot even think of!

This concept is highly interesting and it causes us to look beyond the obvious, allowing us to see greater detail in all that materialises in our lives. Most people don’t have the ‘time’ for this… But those that delve deeper are often greeted with a sense of relief and insightful understanding, that was previously occupied by irritation and unease and occasionally, even bitter disappointment.

Ironically (or perfectly), as I taught a class last Saturday, what I had prepared was a little more challenging than usual and it was interesting to see the various students’ reactions. In general, there was a sense of dejection and frustration. They were actually doing really well physically, considering the movements I had shared with them, but mentally I could almost tangibly feel them giving up.

Being in the creative arts, this happens from time to time. What comes to me as I am creating for class differs. Naturally, I keep an eye on the level of what I am delivering but sometimes it is hard to tell. What feels simple to me translates otherwise in class. It is just the way it is. Very much like life. Some days are easy and some days are more challenging. That is life. After a pep talk to the class about letting go of perfection, the situation somewhat improved but the feeling of the class lingered with me throughout the weekend, as my primary goal is for my students to feel good whilst being challenged and not the other way round…

As I contemplated it further, my main thought was to give them something less challenging next week.???  Also, the fact became more profound of how we tend to resist the present moment when things don’t go our way. Myself included, along with 95% of the human race. The remaining 5% being those that are fully enlightened and have transcended such trivial happenings, as they are living in total acceptance of what is. and are thereby physical instruments of peace. The majority of our pain and suffering in this life is our resistance to what is unfolding in the present moment. Once we release this resistance, the suffering disappears and we are able to embody a sense of peace.?

“Acceptance looks like a passive state, but in reality it brings something entirely new into this world. That peace, a subtle energy vibration, is consciousness.” ~ Eckhart Tolle

This is most definitely easier said than done. Until we are able to truly look at ourselves and lovingly explore why we feel such need to control and why we trust so little in ourselves, releasing resistance becomes close to impossible. On the other hand, as we start to truly love ourselves, forgive ourselves and accept ourselves, we are in turn able to accept others for who they are and situations for what they are with less anguish. As we heal, our life heals with us.?

Everything happens for a reason. Perhaps if we really begin to believe this our lives would be filled with more peace and happiness, steadfast in the belief that life always gives us not what we want but what we need, in order to evolve.

M. Scott Peck sums it up perfectly in his book The Road Less Travelled:

“Life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. It is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it. Once we truly know that life is difficult – once we truly understand and accept it – then life is no longer difficult.  Because once it is accepted, the fact that it is difficult no longer matters.”

I believe that this does not mean that life will then be free from challenges but that they will be seen and dealt with differently and will no longer cause anguish. At the highest level of awakening, they will even be welcomed, for they are understood as necessary for one’s growth. I look forward to that day! ??

In the meantime, I choose this year to be one that is met with less resistance in all ways and that this may allow me to be more present in the now and more at peace within myself. Let’s let 2018 be the year that we begin to live with less fear!?

Let’s trust in who we are and in this marvellous Universe that does such a wonderful job of ensuring that all the planets rotate with such precision and each star is in its perfect place! Surely, our lives are a piece of cake for it to direct!?? It will do so whether we like it or not, so how would our lives change if we began to go with the flow, as opposed to fighting hard for our barricade of resistance? I am eager to find out!

I wish you all the best year that you have EVER had! May it overflow your heart with love (self-love first) and joy that will blow your mind!?

Pause and take a moment for yourself the next time you are stuck in traffic, a relationship fails, transportation is delayed, or your favourite restaurant is closed etc. Consider that the Universe may actually have your back and is directing you towards something that is better for you, or helping you avoid an accident or food poisoning or who knows?! Your guess is as good as mine!?

I send you rays of pure light from my heart to yours!? Remember you are a shining light!?

Make it your best year yet, for you deserve no less than the very best!!??

Happy New You Year!??


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