The Art Of Forgiveness – Part 1

Forgiveness. A matter that we have all had to contend with at some point and often shy away from. Just like I have procrastinated writing this blog hahaha.??? But why is that?

Conceivably, due to its immense complexity as to the emotions that attach to such a heart-wrenching subject. It is incredibly gruelling to face and let go of the resentment and pain that has shaped us for years, decades or perhaps even lifetimes!

However, forgiveness may actually be the most direct key to peace that we are in possession of – all of us – if we are courageous enough to look deeper into the truth that lies beneath it. We have all been ‘wronged’ in our lives. From birth to now there have been a myriad of events and occurrences that have scarred us. Some deeper than others.?

But as I look back presently, these events have also been my greatest teachers. I now find myself wanting to say THANK YOU to each of these experiences and people!? This is indeed after a lifetime peppered with bouts of depression, countless nights and days spent pouring out grief and the odd burnout here and there hahaha. But, nonetheless, better late than never!??

If we are to move forward honestly and thrive in our existence, we must embrace forgiveness wholeheartedly. But how do we do that? How is that really possible when we feel so damaged?

And then there is resentment. It is important to look at how we have contributed to any situation that is in need of forgiveness to be able to release resentment. What part did we play in the scenario? It always takes two to tango, though understandably it is easier to throw full blame onto the other person alone.

However, if we dare to look at the four fingers pointing back at us as we point our finger towards another in blame, it will become apparent that somewhere along the line we are also responsible for what is happening to some degree. Once we are able to look at the potential part that we played in these painful circumstances, we are able to release the resentment that attaches to them.

Sometimes life’s lessons are incredibly heartbreaking but this is how we evolve and master who we really are or who we are not. Perhaps we lacked boundaries and that is why somebody walked all over us? Or maybe we had such low self-worth that we felt we deserved all the mental/physical abuse that we received? Or for all one knows, it was a soul agreement that we made before we came because that horrifying experience was exactly what we needed to be able to evolve to the next level on our soul’s eternal journey?? The possibilities are endless…

“It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody.” ~ Maya Angelou

A dear friend of mine recommended a book to me that allowed me to understand forgiveness in a way that had never been presented to me before. In the past few years, it has helped me lessen many unwanted invisible kilos of buried grief and resentment. It has also given me a tool to employ forgiveness more consistently in my life. This priceless book is entitled ‘Zero Limits’  by Joe Vitale and Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len.

Dr. Hew Len is a Hawaiian healer, who performs a modern version of Ancient Hawaiian, ‘kahuna’ healing tradition, called Ho’oponopono. ‘Zero Limits’ is well worth reading to understand this concept in depth. Through this book and regular practice, I was able to fully embody this golden nugget.?

Ho’oponopono is a healing system based on Hawaiian shamanistic traditions. Using this method, Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len cured a whole prison filled with barbaric, unhinged inmates without any therapy sessions. Instead, he reviewed their prison records to connect to each individual and as he did he recited the Ho’oponopono mantra from his heart-space:

“I love you.

I am sorry.

Please forgive me.

Thank you.”

I encourage you to experiment with implementing the Ho’oponopono healing mantra into your lives and see what effect this has for you. Do you feel lighter? Less constricted from within perhaps?  I hope that it helps you as much as it helps me. 

“When you forgive, you in no way change the past – but you sure do change the future.” ~ Bernard Meltzer

I look forward to exploring the Art Of Forgiveness a little further in part 2.?

In the meantime, I love you, I am sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you. 


Sending you infinite love, light and peace!

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See you in part 2 🙂

Special thanks to for all the lovely images.??

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